My kids sometimes can get a little aggressive when they hear one of the many no’s I have to tell them. I’ve been researching and there are some points we can take into consideration to control that aggression.
- Help the children to identify the situation when they are upset and feel frustrated.
- Show that we can’t always have what we want.
- Teach them to stop before they act, counting to 10 or thinking about something funny every time they feel mad or disappointed.
- Talk to the children, check if the situation is serious or not, if there are any other options or ways out and if it is really necessary to get mad.
- Explain that those rage attacks will have consequences like sanctions from your side.
- Help them to choose between two options: make a tantrum and face the consequences or find a solution.
- Teach them relaxation techniques like the “snow man”. Children have to imagine that they are a snow man and the sun light starts to warm it up, transforming all his body in water. “It is a sensation that produces the relaxation of the muscles while in a process of anguish and nervousness.” says Urra.
Well, sometimes I try some of these, but lack of patience sometimes is Queen.
