I remember - I remember how that felt. One day Faith came in as I was getting ready for work. She hugged me and said “have a nice day at work, Mommy.” There was something about the way she said it - so depressed.. I just started crying. My mom told me that I was doing what I needed to do for my family, that there would be a time I might need to be home for Faith - and I would know when that time was. I didn’t have a choice about working at that point in my life - a lot of women don’t. You do the best you can for your family, and your love will shine through. There are a lot of amazing adults who were raised by single women who had to work, married mothers who had to work - and they have nothing but admiration for them. I think children can tell the difference between ignoring them because you just don’t care - and dividing your time because you have no choice. Don’t be hard on yourself - you’re a wonderful mother. There are women who stay home 24/7 who can’t claim that honor.

Hugs to you.

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Something I did to help was try to let her “help” you do the things you’re doing. If you’re cooking, find a way for her to participate, even if it’s pretending to cook. Let her help you put clothes in the washing machine, etc. You still get things done, although it might take a few extra minutes, and she gets to feel like she’s helping Mom.

As if you’re not busy enough, I’ve tagged you!

I love Holli and Lynne’s replies! They make a lot of sense. All I can add is that she may be remembering her time with you when she had her surgery so she wants you to herself again.

Just keep on loving her like you always do. She knows it & can feel it.

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Holli - Thanks for your comment. You made me feel much better. I’m sure she knows that I want to be with her but I also have to work. We have had some conversations about this and I try to explain why I can’t, for instance, pick her up at school. Sometimes she says: today you are going to earn money for bread, right?

Lynne: Thanks. Sometimes I do that, she participates in the cooking, the problem is that I end up spending much time cooking and having a lot to clean afterwards, but it’s a good option, and she appreciates that.
I’ll do the meme this week, I promise.

Connie: I believe that is really true, the same happened last summer when we were on holidays for almost three weeks. Going back to school was terrible.
I just wish I could leave earlier from work (now I leave at 6.30pm) but that is not possible.